acroyear | In reply to Kelique

Fripp:

Challenging fantasy generates reaction in proportion to the strength with which the fantasy is held. In other words, look out. If any of this seems remote from daily life, or theoretical, look around - it is clearly not. Bumping up against each others' hopes, aspirations, aims, dreams – and utterly unrealistic, witless imaginary schemes – is pretty much daily stuff for anyone that does anything with anyone else; let alone in an area where the creative imagination is fundamental.

Where a good person is in fantasy, yet seeing that this will cause damage to myself/a common undertaking, a bringing-down-to-earth is necessary sooner-or-later; but this earthing can cause a few emotional bruises and, handled unkindly, even psychic damage.

This grounding call recently fell to me. I saw a good person move into imagination, saw the repercussions of this down the road & was not prepared to let the future be connected to that fantasy. So, seeing trouble coming that I was unable/not prepared to deal with at a later date, I decided to act. For the limited character that I am, my guiding principles were these:

once a decision is taken, better to act on that decision as soon as feasible, in a clean & straightforward fashion.

act rightly, and you will be able to deal with the repercussions.

"Acting rightly", to the degree that I was able, I knocked the fantasy on the head. Trusting in this, I trust to the repercussions.

The key to this is the intention & motivation that give rise to a decision, act or strategy. When we act intentionally, even with the best intentions, and call a person on their assumptions or behaviour, the impact can be considerable. In any case, our own assumptions & behaviour, unintentionally, will already have generated irritation & difficulties of which we are unaware. An excuse sometimes offered, for our own careless dealings with others, is that I have provided "opportunities" (i.e. difficulties) for another person to use in their own work. This is fundamentally dishonest. Dealings of this power & subtlety are only for the qualified; those qualified are small in number; and those small-in-number don't advertise.

Just some thoughts.