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acroyearHere's what I really mean by that when people see one of us without the other during the blocks @ faire between our sets, 'cause its actually a very GOOD thing, not a bad thing.
This year, we've practically doubled our performance time, and when you figure in all our time taken walking to & from our set locations (sometimes long distances like boardwalk to 'A' for ratpucking, or globe to boar's head), it means we're together for more of the day than we're apart...
And actually, its one of the reasons that in the afternoon block, 3pm to whenever our last set is, we are APART and stay that way, unless we've agreed its time to catch a show (like how the weather made Chess Match perfect on Monday).
I need room to breathe, to talk to some of my friends that aren't "common" friends (people I only know through faire, aren't guildies, and I've seen every year since 1993), and I need to talk about topics without her garb and wench stuff entering the conversation simply because she's there.
Its not that I can't talk about such things, but I hear the same things regularly as she tells the same stories to different people (and usually its something I first heard when she was telling her father over the cellphone earlier in the week as she's walking in the door)...
and that's reciprocal -- when we're together, she'll hear my stories 20 times over as I mention them to different groups.
So what would happen (and this may be how relationships sour if its not acknowledged and dealt with) is that we hear the same stories and the same jokes 20 million times and we might get sick of it and bored of it and eventually get bored of each other.
So instead, we separate during the day, and give ourselves freedom to talk and be with other people.
Its better to have the freedom of not thinking we're boring each other just because we're working to remain interesting to and involved with our friends.
But it also means that if I'm there and she's not, DON'T ASK. I don't know, and I don't want to know.
Most importantly, I don't need to know. I know who she's going home with, and I am content with that.
This year, we've practically doubled our performance time, and when you figure in all our time taken walking to & from our set locations (sometimes long distances like boardwalk to 'A' for ratpucking, or globe to boar's head), it means we're together for more of the day than we're apart...
And actually, its one of the reasons that in the afternoon block, 3pm to whenever our last set is, we are APART and stay that way, unless we've agreed its time to catch a show (like how the weather made Chess Match perfect on Monday).
I need room to breathe, to talk to some of my friends that aren't "common" friends (people I only know through faire, aren't guildies, and I've seen every year since 1993), and I need to talk about topics without her garb and wench stuff entering the conversation simply because she's there.
Its not that I can't talk about such things, but I hear the same things regularly as she tells the same stories to different people (and usually its something I first heard when she was telling her father over the cellphone earlier in the week as she's walking in the door)...
and that's reciprocal -- when we're together, she'll hear my stories 20 times over as I mention them to different groups.
So what would happen (and this may be how relationships sour if its not acknowledged and dealt with) is that we hear the same stories and the same jokes 20 million times and we might get sick of it and bored of it and eventually get bored of each other.
So instead, we separate during the day, and give ourselves freedom to talk and be with other people.
Its better to have the freedom of not thinking we're boring each other just because we're working to remain interesting to and involved with our friends.
But it also means that if I'm there and she's not, DON'T ASK. I don't know, and I don't want to know.
Most importantly, I don't need to know. I know who she's going home with, and I am content with that.
