A friend of mine from ages past wrote this
Jun. 6th, 2006 02:42 pmIrony:
There is also nothing heroic about proposing an amendment to the Constitution banning gays from marrying in an effort to "protect the family." There's nothing heroic in stating, over and over again, from pulpits to blogs, to opinion pages, to street corners, that gay people are trying to bring down families by seeking legal recognition for their own. My caseload hasn't gone up since San Francisco staged its civil disobedience, nor have the hidden horrors I've discovered in messed up families gotten worse since the SCOTUS handed down their rulings. Gay people, gay families, have nothing to do with the pain and problems of heterosexual families. They don't take away from the scant social services monies available for family care, nor the lack of adequate police resources, nor school deficiencies, nor access to preventive and protective health and medical systems. In short, blaming gay folk for these problems is a bogus argument, one that isn't grounded in the reality of this world. It is rather a sales tool, offered by people scared of change, seeking any reason, any justification, to hold on to a world that never really existed.
-- Jody Wheeler, former social worker. 2004.